It’s going to happen whether we like it or not. It happens to all of us. As we grow we slowly lose more and more friends or people we thought who were real in our lives. Is it so much a bad thing or a good thing? Let’s talk about it.
When we were kids we all became friends with whoever would share our food with us or play with us in the playground. It was innocent. We didn’t know any better. As we grow into elementary school some of us run into bullies and other classmates that give us the harsh reality of life. And that is that not everyone has your best interest at heart. Not everyone is there to like you or even love you.
This earth we live in has many lessons that teach us hardships along the way. As we head into high school it gets worse. Students gossip about each other behind one another’s back and act like everything is cool. When it isn’t. They end up getting into verbal fights and cut off their friendship with bad blood among each other.
As college approaches and comes in, our group gets even smaller. It is here, we still end up losing friends. What? You thought I was going to say this is the stage you get life long friends and you guys go out on road trips til you’re in your 60s? Nope. The experiment still goes haywire.
Many of our closest friends come from life itself. Not so much high school or college but from other areas of life. Whether it be from work, church or a lounge. I can attest to that. This is simply life and their is nothing any of us can do about it. The friend you have right now may not even be with you for the rest of your life. The connection may fade away. Like a balloon flying off in the distance.
This happens because we are learning about life through all these stages in our lives. We learn more and more about those around us from experience. Not by having a flute that we play that automatically has people gravitate to us so much that they feel they can never leave.
The same thing happens in relationships as well. We learn and grow from the problems of our past partners. Then we know to do better than the last. Although some don’t ever learn. This article isn’t for them. Until they break out of the need to have people around you just cause. Especially when they rather use you than help you with anything.
Anyone who is a yes man or woman is not a true friend. If I do something wrong you should tell me. It doesn’t help if you’re fake. Then there’s even more reason to not trust you because you don’t hold any values. This is one of the reddest flags you could ever see.
There is nothing wrong with having a maximum of two to three friends. Its not about the quantity of people you have around you but the quality. This can help you stay mentally stable. Even spiritually. Stick around those that will be there for you and tell you the truth. That is the mark of a true friend.