If you’re not going to marry her…

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There are too many times where we jump so fast into relationships. We like the idea of having someone but do not wish to do what is necessary in order to keep the person we’re with. The thrill of being able to kiss, hug, and touch her whenever we want. It’s like just having a pass to live out our fantasies with this woman but we shouldn’t waste her time.

I have been on the end as the guy that loved the physical aspect of it all. A pretty girl by my side. I didn’t realize what I was doing all along. Lack of communication is where it fell apart. Only difference is, I was looking to marry her. However, being lazy to do things for this girl would come back to haunt me as she decided she needed a break. This break would end up lasting til this day. I think you get the drift of how it turned out.

The issue is clear as day fellas. If you just want to have a fun time with a girl and not take her seriously then just be her friend. If you want to be with her you need to have the intention of marrying her. Now’s the time where everyone is saying “whoa, this guy moves too fast!” Do I? The goal is to know the girl as much as possible inside before even thinking of dating her for real.

Go through a phase of just being friends at first. Take time to know one another. Take months if need be. Maybe even a year. Rushing into a relationship is only going to hurt it in the long run or short term. It could even damage the friendship that was built. Be very cautious how you do this. Ask her things other than her favorite color or if she likes long walks on the beach. Really delve into her world, men. Know her past. See her present. Desire a future with her.

I’m a big believer in

if it is meant to be, it will be.

In no time you guys will be strong as iron together. Like ketchup and fries. Every day will be a new chance to get to know one another. Telling stories to one another. Staying loyal because you are invested in her. Like in investments, it will take a while to flourish but if you do the right research beforehand you’re golden.

Don’t ever demean her. Show her love even when she backlashes at you. It won’t be all rainbows and cotton candy. There will be times when you want to bite each others heads off but you’ll work through it. Not because you just want to be in between her but because you would rather be in her love. Mentally and physically there for her, more than anything else in the world.

Making articles to feed your mind and body. Freelance writer. BMCC Poetry Slam 2012 Winner 📝

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